Wednesday, May 24, 2006
Be R.E.A.L
Taking a break from assignments I stumbled across this article which I found very interesting. Read at your leisure. Like I promised I will have a FR soon :).
"CARLOS XUMA
GET SOME R.E.A.L. CLARITY
Is there too much information out there on this topic?
Have we reached info-saturation on pickup and att raction?
I was pondering this the other day as I was putting together
information for a presentation, and it stuck with me. I think that
the subject of att raction and pickup should be as easy as possible
to learn and to use.
A few years ago, I was subscribed to a bunch of newsletters on the
topic of seduction. After a while, it got to be just way too much,
and it was making it harder for me to arrive at my own
understanding.
You'll find that lot of the info out there is basically the same.
Everyone wants to convince you that THEY have found the answer.
What we've found is a bunch of answers to a lot of questions - not
just one.
We don't need more complex models and clever diagrams. We need
CLARITY.
You need more exercises that will actually put you on the path to
getting better with women, and in all social situations. You need
more examples and maps to find the path that suits you.
Have you noticed that there are very few people who can give you
exercises that are PRACTICAL at helping you with Inner game?
Why is that?
Let's look at the problem. First of all:
1) You need motivation.
Face it, we all want to be motivated and inspired by someone. It's
hard to stay motivated every day and all the time. Humans are lazy
by nature. The funny thing about laziness is this: We go through
all kinds of EFFORT and WORK to be lazy.
How do you think such things as the remote control and the recliner
with drink holders were invented? Human beings put out unbelievable
effort in the NOW to avoid work in the LATER.
Each one of those people that invented those time-saving,
effort-saving things thought it was a wonderful idea, or they just
wanted to get rich. Either way, they motivated themselves with the
promise of a better future if they would just invest time in
something right now.
Think about that for a minute, then rejoin me. I'll be here.
Now as for motivation, well that's like taking a shower. Every time
you get it, you feel great, but it wears off. Tomorrow, you'll need
motivation all over again.
NOBODY is motivated 100% of the time, no matter what you may think.
NOBODY is good with women 100% of the time.
NOBODY is happy 100% of the time.
It all comes down to your own fire and drive. Moods come and go,
but action speaks volumes.
It's YOUR job to find what motivates you and leverage it to keep
you going. I don't care if it's tapes or e-books or 2 triple
espressos in the morning. You have to go to the source of your
motivation and drink from the well, my friend. Don't think that
reading an e-book once or watching a program once will get you that
motivation. You have to be willing to pick it up and re-read it ten
times (minimum) to really start to ingrain the beliefs in your
thinking.
2) You don't need another graph/chart/picture/clever analytical
method. You need ANSWERS.
There are some guys out there that are so hung up on the analytical
side of this stuff that they get into REAL trouble when it comes to
making more pictures of how to graph att raction and buying
temperature and social value and ...
Jeez Louise. It's time to put your scientific calculators away and
just own up to the ACTION you must take. To improve your inner game
will require work - and some of it might scare you.
Ultimately, the more information you try to find out there, the
more you are really trying to avoid DOING what you know you must
DO. We're seeking the Holy Grail of att raction and pickup
techniques, but what we end up doing is not putting the EFFORT in.
By studying instead of doing, you get to feel the pleasure of
learning, and avoid the pain of practicing.
Remember: Anything worth doing will NOT be easy.
Let me say it again.
Anything worth doing in life will NOT be easy!
And it's not easy to get off your butt and go meet women. It's much
easier to sit inside and surf some nasty pictures, or post to a
forum. Or maybe even figure out if you plot the data points of a
woman's interest against her body language you'll get the square
root of ... well, nothing.
On the other hand, if you can accept the total reality that if you
learn AND apply, you will succeed. It is as inevitable as the day
following the night.
I believe in the Jeet Kune Do philosophy as applied to the Art of
att raction. I call this (jokingly) "Jeet Kune Dating."
Here's your acronym for the week. I offer it to clarify and help.
If it doesn't do that, forget it.
R.E.A.L.
R = Relaxed & Resourceful - Cool and calm keeps you at your best,
your ability to connect to your innate abilities.
E = Effective & Energized - It has power - Alpha Power. Raise your
energy level.
A = Authentic & Alpha - It has to be YOU, and it has to be the
Masculine you.
L = Lifestyle & Lasting - Because it's NATURAL to you, you'll never
lose it - No separation from your identity.
R.E.A.L. Game. This is what I use to help guys get their inner game
solid.
Back to Bruce.
Bruce Lee sought to reconcile all the various styles and methods he
saw in the community of Martial Arts. He created the Tao of Jeet
Kune Do as an answer to this, explaining that NO-style should be
your style. It comes from a personal set of beliefs.
I try my best to perform the same function for guys today. By
providing them with tools that they can adapt to their
personalities, they can build on the foundation of their
REAL selves to achieve success more readily.
Other methods often require you to slap a whole structure on top of
a foundation (i.e., personality) that it may not fit. It makes more
sense to start with building locks of that person's personality
type to give them their own individual approach. In the end, every
man that achieves true success with women will end up with his own
UNIQUE style anyway.
Wherever you go, there you are.
In the Tao of Jeet Kune Do, Bruce Lee's book on his philosophy of
fighting arts, he talks about the six diseases that plague us. I
think they are frighteningly relevant to the art of att raction and
pickup, and so I offer them to you here. Consider also that
following any one "system" is only a stepping stone to greater
growth. In fact, if you follow any particular system of pickup or
seduction (or whatever you choose to call it), then you are also
using a 'technique,' but in a much larger sense. You're using one
BIG technique.
Now, the six 'diseases':
1) "The desire for victory."
Ah, how this plagues so many men. The need for results and desire
for women puts us in a dangerous head space. We must let go of
attachment to results, but pursue them to a conclusion.
2) "The desire to resort to technical cunning."
Again, too strong an attachment to a technique fails to grasp the
understanding that we must all CUSTOMIZE our approach to our
R.E.A.L. selves.
3) "The desire to display all that has been learned."
Wow. I have to raise my hand at that one. I've done this a lot. You
learn a ton of clever stuff, and you gotta unload it. In the end,
you probably could have done without it all. You just act from the
confidence that HAVING it means you don't have to USE it.
4) "The desire to awe the enemy."
This would be all of us. What guy hasn't let his ego creep into his
approach or interaction with a woman and ruin things by being the
braggart or boaster? Just Relax and let her discover you. Not get
overwhelmed by you.
5) "The desire to play the pa s s ive role."
We, as men, must be the initiators. I know there's a ton of clever
stuff out there that appeals to a guy's desire to not approach or
not take action to get women att racted to him, but the REALity
persists. You must be the one to take action. Initiate. It's your
destiny and your birthright. Don't shirk it.
6) "The desire to get rid of whatever disease one is affected by."
This one is the toughest to understand, in that Zen koan sort of
way. I think what is meant by this is that to succeed, you can't be
constantly wrestling with your weaknesses. You can't let go when
you're trying to get rid of them.
You must simply dilute them with the power of your strengths. I
think that a big part of this thinking is that if I focus too much
on overcoming my weaknesses, I succumb to them.
Take that with a grain of common sense. Desire is a part of human
nature. But in the end. you will only be as successful to the
degree that you LET GO, not cling desperately to your 'style' or
your 'techniques' or your methods. Remember, long after all the
clever lines and approaches have been exposed, your authenticity
and REAL character will never be out of style or a liability. You
can't get CAUGHT if you're being YOU.
Get REAL.
BE real."
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Monday, May 22, 2006
Bit Busy and 1000 hits
I like to Thank everyone who visits this blog regularly or just came in we've hit 1000+ thanks to you. I'm a bit busy at the moment with projects, summatives and acdemics in general so updates may be a bit slow. I'll try to post a FR sometime soon.
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Monday, May 08, 2006
TO Feedback
Just woke up, anyways the T-Dot was definatly fun. I was daysarging with a wing then joining Asianplayboy and Soundwave for nightgame. Soundwave from what I saw improved well, on my view of things I did a ton of isolations and ran a 2 set good enough that I good iois from both of them one going "Whats your name? Do you know how to dance? Your cute" which was a w7.5 the other a b7.5 said "Cute, Classy, and Good Looking". Best thing was both them asked if I was high :P Wft the Fuck?. But FUCK could have Kclosed wouldnt mind it at all, theres always today and tommorow. Also for the 1st time experienced a AMOG which is good, that being a COLD approach, APB just told me to go in right there.
On learning experiences I had plenty in Toronto getting a hunter mindset, dominant mindset are a just a few to list. Also just before I end things I like to Thank Soundwave and Asainplayboy for letting me chill with them for the nightgame, enjoyed it alot as usual. Now the hard part is going to be keeping momentum "Keep on with the force don't stop, Don't stop 'til you get enough".
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Thursday, May 04, 2006
Rock'in TO!
I'm off to Toronto tommorow, meeting up with AsianPlayboy and his student. You may remember that bootcamp I did with him last summer which helped me alot. We'll be rockin the T-Dot in Day and Nightgame and showing why the summer is close :). Only 38 more days left before school ends!
Cheers to you all this weekend, get out there.
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